Former Belmont coach says ordeal could open doors for others

Monday, December 6, 2010 at 8:22pm
Staff reports

For the first time since her departure as Belmont University's women's soccer coach, Lisa Howe spoke up on Monday, releasing a statement.

After recently disclosing to her team that she and her same-sex partner would be having a baby, Belmont released a statement last Thursday saying Howe had resigned. On Friday, the university issued another statement, saying the conclusion of her employment was a mutual agreement. Members of the soccer team, however, say Howe was fired.

In a statement issued by her attorney and first published  by national gay and lesbian news magazine The Advocate (see article here), Howe described last week's events as an "unfortunate situation." She did not say whether she was dismissed or was forced to resign after six years as Belmont's coach. 

"I was a good student athlete recruiter, had an organized and professionally run program, and was one of Belmont's best employees," Howe said in the statement. "None of that changed when I acknowledged that I am a lesbian and that my partner and I are expecting a baby. I am proud of who I am and my family and our future, and I want every person — no matter what race, religion, nationality or sexuality they represent — to feel the same way. Yes, I would have preferred to not be in the headlines, but if my situation leads to one person beginning to feel acceptance now, or one person becoming more understanding of diversity, and if people can talk openly and honestly about topics they never broached before, then this unfortunate situation will have served a positive purpose." 

Howe has yet to speak directly to the Nashville media.

 

50 Comments on this post:

By: richgoose on 12/6/10 at 9:07

As I said a couple of days ago, the woman did the noble thing and left the University.

The queer/homosexual community is growing at about the same rate as the underclass community and they are sure putting the heat on the Christians.

By: OrthODXTRUTH on 12/6/10 at 9:45

this woman is proud of her homosexual behavior??!!! that's a 5 barf bag on the barf bag scale....EEWWWWW!!!!!!

By: left on 12/6/10 at 9:46

GOD loves the person,hates the sin!

By: laurelrest on 12/6/10 at 9:52

Who is your god? Beelze-bubba?

By: Money4U on 12/6/10 at 10:16

To Lisa and those like you with a preverted mind, God ( not me) says this to you." For this reason, God gave them up unto vile affections for, even the women did change the NATURAL USE (normal sex with a man) into that which is against nature, (sex with another woman) and like wise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman burned in their lust, one toward the other, men with men, working that which is unnatural ( sex with another man) ROMANS 1:26-27 The Apostles Paul & Peter gave a long list of those who definately will not make it to heaven. Fornicators and abusers of themselves with mankind are on that list. If anyone thinks for a second that they can be a Christian and be a homosexual at the same time, are sadly mistaken. Homosexuality is a burning of perverted lust and something one does to themselves, Even God says homosexuality is not natural and it is impossible for God to lie. It is something that is absolutely disgusting.

By: Money4U on 12/6/10 at 10:20

Left on, you need to leave that off and do more bible study. Yes, God does love the sinner and hates the sin however, any bible student also knows God said, if you say you love him and dont do what he says, you are a liar and the truth is not in you. Liars definately will not be in heaven - neither will abusers of themselves with mankind ( homosexuals).

By: gdiafante on 12/7/10 at 7:57

If God created everything, doesn't that mean that he created the sin?

By: Loretta Bridge on 12/7/10 at 8:00

Guess Belmont will not have a Performing Arts Department next year

By: global_citizen on 12/7/10 at 8:02

Reading posts by Money4U gives me the same feeling as when I watch Steven Colbert. His satire is almost so good that it's hard to tell if it's satire or if he's really serious.

By: fdanshep on 12/7/10 at 8:06

We have an openly gay lady in our office of 12 or so and she and her partner are loved by all. While I personally do not espouse the life style, I feel sure that God loves her just as much as he loves Money4U. She was not teaching lesbianisn as a way of like, she was coaching soccer for God's sake!

By: knilob on 12/7/10 at 8:18

@Loretta, if this was Reddit, you'd be swimming in upboats right now. That's a good thing, trust me.

Isn't there something in the bible about "judge not, lest ye be judged?" If we're going to interpret the bible literally, we might as well go all out. Let's all go to http://godhatesshrimp.com/ to study up.

By: Money4U on 12/7/10 at 8:35

knilob. Ignorance ( I mean that in a good way) of the scriptutre about your quote of " judge not that ye be not judged" is very wide spread in America. No Christian was ever told to not judge another. For one, that would go against human nature. You have done it, I have done it and so has everyone else and anyone who says they havent, is a liar. Second, Jesus also said, "If you judge, judge with righteousness judgement." One says the same as the other verse, meaning, dont jump to conclusions and judge someone without all the facts as, sometimes, things appear one way when they are another. Dont assume in your judgement of another. Paul even said to Christians, "Dont you know that you will judge angels?" God did not say for you to listen to your Sunday school teracher, your preacher or, just read the bible, he told you to study to show yourself approved. Most of you are making statements with bits you know about the bible here and there and most of it is, wrong. If you want to debate, study so, you can be knowledgable and stop using your emotions to do your thinking.

By: pswindle on 12/7/10 at 8:37

Is this not discrimination? I thougth that the Bible teaches us to love our neighbor, and not judge. Men of the cloth have fallen from grace since the beginning of time.

By: gdiafante on 12/7/10 at 8:38

Seems Money is doing exactly what he says we shouldn't be doing. Ooops.

By: not_guilty on 12/7/10 at 8:39

A word of caution to those who would castigate and condemn others for their sex lives: the apostle Peter listed busybodies along with murderers, thieves and evildoers. (I Peter 4:15, KJV)

I am one sinner for whom that verse gives pause. Isn't it a form of blasphemy for mortals to claim to speak for God?

By: HighlyAnnoyed on 12/7/10 at 8:43

I sympathize with Howe. But, if you don't want to deal with the evil of "christian values", then you shouldn't work for a christian university.

By: Money4U on 12/7/10 at 8:50

fdanshep: A fornicator is a person who has sex with someone else without being married to them. God tells us to not as much as have a meal with that person. Now, you are either going to l.ive by Gods word or, do as you please. Sure, most homosexuals are good neighbors, friends, etc however, never forget the disgusting acts they are doing and accept that perversion. God says what they do to each other, makes him sick to his stomach. You are either on Gods side or, statans side so, choose. If Gods side then, have the guts to stand up for him and shun those who are perverted sexually, homosexual or, not. There is a vast difference between hating those people and being disgusted with what they are doing to each other. They are as messed up in the head as sure as the radical muslims who really believe what they believe. How did the radical muslims get that way? They were brainwashed by watching film, by teaching and by others accepting what they believe. There is not one difference between a perverted homosexual that in a father who is so perverted that he wants his own daughter since both can yell, "leave me alone, its my chosen lifestyle."

By: HokeyPokey on 12/7/10 at 8:50

Ya know, there are Christians and there are Christians.

Some of them wouldn't know what to do with themselves if they didn't feel persecuted by the "queer/homosexuals" and the underclass.

Some of them minister to everyone including the "queer/homosexual" and the underclass without judgment or malice.

Which one are you?

By: Money4U on 12/7/10 at 8:54

Not Guilty: No one is. "speaking for God." He speaks for himself. Mortals who teach his word simple quote it and tell where that scripture(s) of instyruction is located.

By: dargent7 on 12/7/10 at 8:55

Boys, boys, boys...everyone knew she was gay. Cannot you all "tell" someone is "gay"? How dense does one have to be? She was single, never dated men, and her a female always meet her, hold hands, kiss..whatever. They knew.
Belmont shined it on, looked the other way, until she announced the birth of the happy couple's chlid. She can plead the 1st, 4th, 5th, and 10th Amendment, but she exposed herslf to a southern Christain privately run University.
FIRE her.

By: Money4U on 12/7/10 at 9:00

Want to debate with me? Great then, give me book, chapter and verse for your rebuttal, not your emotions or, your half knowledge about the bible with mis-statements and mis-quotes. Homosexuality is fornication, period. Fornicators will definately not make it to heaven, period. End of arguement. No, its not just ok, its disgusting - a woman kissing and licking on another womans private part" UGH. Give me a break - and you dont think that is screwed up in the head then, you are too.

By: not_guilty on 12/7/10 at 9:15

Money4U, do you feel the same revulsion at male-female cunnilingus as with female-female?

Is there a vulva or clitoris sophisticated enough to know whether the tongue giving it pleasure is male or female?

By: HighlyAnnoyed on 12/7/10 at 9:31

Arguing over intrepretations of the holy bable is retarded. It's a retarded and evil book.

By: gdiafante on 12/7/10 at 9:45

BY MONEY: "Give me a break - and you dont think that is screwed up in the head then, you are too."

Yeah, and you're the typical Christian hypocrit. Congrats!

By: livinglively57 on 12/7/10 at 9:49

This will be the "civil rights" issue of this generation.

It does not matter if homosexuality is "wrong" or "right". What matters is equality for all in this nation of the free.

Belmont erred in hiring Lisa Howe. They are, after all, a private institution. If they are going to discriminate, then they need to ask up front and only hire individuals who are in accordance with their "Christian standards". To have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy is about as hypocritical as it gets.

The whole thing sickens me...and I am glad that I will be judged by God Almighty and not man.

By: dargent7 on 12/7/10 at 9:53

Nothing like a little homosexuality to bring the wackos, nutcases, and psychotics out of the woodwork.The paper allows any comment, no matter how crude, to go thru.
But today, it's downright disgusting.

By: frodo on 12/7/10 at 10:06

I agree with dargent7. This conversation goes way beyond the pale. Time for a responsible adult at CityPaper to return some civility here.

By: Activate on 12/7/10 at 10:26

There are over 450 known English translations of the Bible. Which one are we all quoting from?

By: Ingleweird on 12/7/10 at 10:28

Money4U:
I would love to debate you using scripture. Would you prefer I quote from the book of Grimm's or the book of Aesop?

By: AtheistVoice on 12/7/10 at 10:52

Money4U - your comments are full of hate and ignorance......maybe you should think about a new book to learn from.

By: miscueiam@hotma... on 12/7/10 at 11:54

miscue

Issues such as this always bring out the kind hearted and good in
spirit and the petty, small minded and evil.
I feel some of these comments to border on mental illness
and some sort of religious fervor that fuels dangerous and
antisocial behavior.
In some ways it may be the last hurrah for the old testament
male whose days are doomed.

By: yogiman on 12/7/10 at 11:56

One issue has not been brought out on this subject. This staff report states the woman brought her life style out at this time; Why?

She stated she was a good athletic recruiter and and told her team members she and her 'partner' were going to have a baby. How in the cornbread hell can two women 'have' a baby? Only by tube, or adoption. They sure can't have one through normal sex (unless medical research has found a different method).

I, personally, don't believe children should not be allowed into homosexual parenthood. What are those children going to think when they grow into that thinking stage of life? Are they going to be inclined to follow "momma" and "daddy" in life and become homosexuals, thinking that is the proper way of life?

Think of your lives today. Have none of you followed your parents and just 'went on your own'? Especially good parents. I'm proud to say I followed mine.

The main point is; why at this time? Is it because the homosexuals are in the up-front issues of the news of today?

By: openmind on 12/7/10 at 11:58

Stop shoving your religion down others' throats and learn a bit of compassion. Accept people for who they are if they are not hurting others. I'm extremely impressed because she showed bravery in going public with such a taboo thing in the bible belt. Keep in mind that religion is a matter of opinion and cannot be forced upon others by thumping a book that was created by man, posing as inspiration of god.

How can you, with good conscience, thumb your nose at someone who was a good coach? It can be proven that she was good at her job and her team loves her. However, you've yet to prove your intolerant god.

By: dargent7 on 12/7/10 at 12:08

Agreed. These comments are just one rung down from the Christians who murder abortion Drs.
At the core: Anyone really think humans "chose" to be "gay"?
I mean, life isn't hard and tough enough at 15 years old, one decides, "Well, since life's a bitch and everything is going wrong, I'll become gay"?
It's DNA. Upwards of 20% of the world's population is "gay".
This Lowe woman should of stayed in the closet.
Not announce the birth of her child, with another woman.
What'd she expect from a Christian University? A fruit basket, flowers, and a nursey as a gift?
She's either an idiot or just plain dumb.
Belmont will lose here, but doesn't deserve to.

By: matahari on 12/7/10 at 12:11

yogiman, you don't believe children should not be allowed into homosexual parenthood? does that mean you do believe they should?

my dad happens to be a cheating philanderer, and i certainly was never of the mind to follow his example. my mom was a stay-at-home mom, and i can't see me doing that either.

one thing they did teach me that i chose to follow was to think for myself.

my parents are good parents, but parenting isn't about making your children parrot your every move and thought. it's about leading and guiding them to be the best people they can be.

i'm pretty sure ms howe and her partner, who have chosen to be parents and have deliberately become parents (not by "accident" as happens with so many parents that don't really need to have children) will do everything they can to help their child become the best he or she can be, regardless of the child's sexual orientation; which unlike religious fanaticism, isn't taught.

By: gdiafante on 12/7/10 at 12:15

"The main point is; why at this time?"

Um...did you really just ask something that was explained in the article? Did you read the article?

By: localboy on 12/7/10 at 12:21

After reading through the various posts, my most pertinent comment is
"Go 'Dores!"

By: No More Racetrack on 12/7/10 at 12:24

Man...You religious people are such horrible human beings. You and your Sky Daddy have been ruining the world long enough with your message of hate. If we could only rid the world of your kind we could finally advance our society. You are all idiots.

By: No More Racetrack on 12/7/10 at 12:26

Religion = Hate.

By: livinglively57 on 12/7/10 at 12:38

No More Racetrack...I'm a Christian but my Christianity is based on God being LOVE and that part of God being in every single one of us.

The Christians you talk about give the rest of us a bad name...and personally, I want nothing to do with their "brand of Christianity". They have done more to spread hate in this world than anything else I can think of.

God Blass Lisa Howe and family....I hope that this will lead to something much better in her life. She deserves it.

Responding to how can two homosexuals be parents.....I had traditional parents...was abused by my biological father and my mother was buried by mental illness. How I would have loved to come from any "normal" family that was loving and whole, whether it was two Moms, two Dads, a Dad and a Mom and so forth. Loving children and providing a good home has nothing to do with what your sexuality is.

"And you shall know them by their fruits...."

By: dargent7 on 12/7/10 at 12:57

"No More Race Track":
Thanks for posting twice.
Especially the equation.
We all couldn't figure out were you were coming from.

By: GUARDIAN on 12/7/10 at 2:10

GUARDIAN-This is a lesson in life. If you are "qay" don't get a job teaching anything at a private Christian school. That is simple but can you leftwags understand.

By: producer2 on 12/7/10 at 2:11

Quote of the day:
"Jesus had two fathers and he turned out ok"

By: Country on 12/7/10 at 2:51

not_guilty actually it is is a sin for a man to go down on a woman and vice-versa. As well as anal sex.

I remember about 10 year ago most everyone was praying and asking for GOD TO BLESS AMERICA, Now all is saying these Horrible things about our GOD, the one we asked to help us and Bless us. He is the same GOD today as he was then as he ALWAYS will be. Now Money4U is very educated in the Bible, that scares the rest of you. So the only defense you can take is to get mad and Put down the Christian Values that we all have grown up with. This new generations do not go to church like we did years ago. GOD is not in everyones life anymore and that is ashamed, but let something happen and then people will start asking for GOD's help. Or they try to Blame Him. I am glad he is a forgiving GOD. He states ALL sins (Except Blasphemy of the Holy Ghost/Sprit) can be forgiven. I wish Everyone the Best. And yes I have Gay Friends I will not interfer with their choices all I can say is How I beleive and What My KJV Holy Bible states and hope they get their Lives Right with their Maker ( whoever they beleive in ) before they Die.

My Thoughts and Prayers are with Everyone. May you go in Peace and live Happily Everafter.

By: not_guilty on 12/7/10 at 4:27

Country, do you contend that cunnilingus between husband and wife is sinful? Based upon what?

For the first ten years of my married life, my wife and I committed a felony each time we had oral sex in Tennessee, but that being a sin never occurred to me.

By: Country on 12/7/10 at 5:38

not_guilty, I'm sorry for the confusion, not a sin between a Husband and Wife, In the book of Hebrews says the marriage bed is undefiled. I was mis thinking what it stated. I had to get help to find it. My Apoligies.

By: yogiman on 12/7/10 at 9:37

In regard to your post at 12:15, giadante; yes, I did read the article but I don't think you read mine. I simply asked a simple question about why she opened her life to the public at this time.

Don't you know how to read a question, gdiafante? Its a question, not a statement; understand?

By: yogiman on 12/8/10 at 7:47

matahari,

Regarding your 12/7/10 12:11 post; you question; "yogiman, you don't believe children should be allowed into homosexual parenthood?" Then you ask: "does that mean you believe they should?"

What kind of duel questions are those? If I stated I didn't believe they should be, then why would I believe they should be?

By: chakracon on 12/8/10 at 1:54

To ORTHOdxTRUTH & Money4you:

Have you had sex with a man lately? If you haven't I have four words for you
1). Overrated
2). Dull
3). Boring
4). Uninteresting

Oh... and stick your bible where the sundontshine

By: Nitzche on 12/9/10 at 5:32

this lady is a martyr ...such courage, just like storming the sands of iwa jima,...wow, courage under fire!